Do you suffer with social anxiety?

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Suffering with social anxiety is something that affects many people of all ages.

Sometimes it’s something that we simply ‘get used to’, as if it’s a fixed part of us, and defines who we are.

Whilst as adults we can make adjustments to what we do so as to try to cover up our feelings of social anxiety, research shows those feelings have been with us since childhood.

When I was a child at school the phrase we used to describe being anxious was ‘having butterflies in your stomach’, and as we’re exposed to various situations those butterflies usually fly away.

For some people, however, those butterflies, stay inside and grow into hideous many headed monsters that bite away at their insides causing intense pain and suffering.

At this more extreme level we call it social phobia, which is actually one of the most common anxieties that clients have, often because it’s something which has a way of cropping up in so many different situations.

Many people find that their social anxiety expands and causes them problems in many areas of their lives, including over-planning, having repeating thoughts and suffering from a poor self-image.

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Situations where social anxiety occurs.

Examples of where it can cause problems include:

  • Family gatherings
  • Moving school
  • Changing jobs
  • Going out on dates
  • Having to give presentations or talks
  • Office parties and events
  • Having to deal with officials
  • Having to use public toilets
  • Dealing with customer service departments, such as returning goods
  • Feeling like you’re being teased or called-out over something
  • Having to make eye contact with people
  • Being in a situation where you’re required to make ‘small-talk’
  • Having to exert authority over others

What are the symptoms of social anxiety?

Some of the physical symptoms experienced by suffers include:

  • Blushing
  • Fast heartbeat
  • Trembling
  • Sweating
  • Upset stomach or nausea
  • Trouble catching your breath
  • Dizziness or feeling lightheaded
  • Feeling that your mind has gone blank
  • Panic
  • Cramps or tension in muscles
  • Uncontrollable muscle twitches
  • Sometimes people develop dysmorphia concerning parts of their body that they feel are to ‘blame’ for the problem

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What are the thoughts that suffers have?

Some the thoughts or actions that suffers go through include things like these:

  • Being fearful of situations in which you may be judged
  • Wanting to avoid doing things or speaking to people out of fear of embarrassment
  • Worrying about embarrassing or humiliating yourself
  • Ruminating and in their thoughts expecting the worst possible consequences from any interactions
  • Worrying in advance and at the time having a strong fear of any interaction with strangers
  • Fear that others will notice that you look anxious, which results in you looking anxious
  • Worrying that they’re blushing, sweating, trembling or have a shaky voice
  • Trying so hard to control themselves that everything thing becomes ‘stiff’ and un-natural
  • Making complicated or detailed plans to avoid situations where they may be the focus of people’s attention
  • Playing out the numerous possibilities of how an event will go and having anxiety in anticipation things going wrong
  • If they do go to a social situation to experience a high level of fear or anxiety during the event
  • After the event to spend time replaying what occurred, blaming oneself for what went ‘wrong’ and feeling bad for not ‘simply getting over it’

Can I get over social anxiety?

I’m always pleased to speak to a client who has social anxiety because experience has shown that this responds very well to hypnosis and BWRT.

Oftentimes the social anxiety suffer has been covering up or hiding their feelings away from others for decades, perhaps arranging situations to try to keep their feelings under control.

For sufferers, to be free from having to make detailed and complex plans and to spend hours going through numerous ‘what-if’ scenarios comes as a welcome relief, so they can finally begin to live their life free from such a debilitating set of feelings.

If you or someone you know is troubled by social anxiety I’d be pleased to offer them an opportunity to discuss their situation and to see if I can suggest some ways this could be helped.

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