It’s been worrying people since the dawn of time.
The concept even made it’s way into the inaugural address of a president, when on Saturday, March 4, 1933, Franklin D. Roosevelt said those immortal words, “… the only thing we have to fear is…fear itself …”
So, first of all, let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is…fear itself — nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance. In every dark hour of our national life a leadership of frankness and of vigor has met with that understanding and support of the people themselves which is essential to victory. And I am convinced that you will again give that support to leadership in these critical days.Franklin D. Roosevelt, 32nd President of the United States
So why do we want to avoid fear or anxiety so much?
Whilst many people have fears of various things or issues, if those fears become too big then they can stop you from enjoying your day-to-day life.
If a fear we have is of something uncommon or infrequent then we can often develop ways of coping and getting round the fear.
However, if our fear relates to events or experiences that often turn up in our daily lives, our fears take on an all too powerful control over our lives.
Simply being told ‘pull yourself together’ or ‘it’ll all be ok’ does not help and even if you put a brave face on, you can still be fearful inside.
But where does having fears originate from?
Childhood patterns of fear control us still
When growing up we are all exposed to various experiences, some good, some bad, some fun, some frightening.
The snag with that broad-brush categorisation is that there’s no easy way to tell how a child may react to any one situation. This means that sometimes, circumstances that once child might find makes them ‘jump’, might, for another child, fill them with dread.
Not knowing how to react in those situations then causes a problem, since when spooked like that we’re all limited to three reactions –
Sometimes, however, when the circumstances are stressful or fast-acting, that decision can occur out of conscious awareness, and then a fear based automatic reaction is often the result.
This can be why many people will say, “Yes, I’m afraid, but I don’t know why.” They’ve still got that automatic fear response running in the background programme area of their mind.
Clients often report that their underlying feelings of fear can sometimes and often without warning explode into panic attacks.
Unless you’ve actually experienced a panic attack there’s no way to fully appreciate the visceral fear and urgency created by having one.
The urgent need to break free from whatever is causing the panic attack is so strong that it overrides any thoughts of logic or reasoning – but all too often the person having a panic attack doesn’t have a clue why it’s happening.
And this lack of a reason ‘why’ acts to make them live out a fearful waiting game, one where they become hyper-vigilant, ever fearful that something they do, say, touch or feel will trigger another attack.
It’s a truly debilitating way to live ones life.
Break free from those long lasting patterns
Hypnotherapy and BWRT® can help by releasing those feelings of fear, meaning you will find yourself more relaxed and calm in situations that were previously troubling you.
I’ve helped many people to regain balance in their minds so they became free from that automatic fear response. If you or someone you care about suffers from fear then please get in touch – I may be able to offer some suggestions to reduce those feelings and we may even work together to help you further.
Change IS possible – a life free from automatic fear IS achievable. Discover more today.