Picture the scene for me; you’re on your way to work, or off to visit someone that you know, & you’re taking either a bus or a train.
So you buy your ticket, get onto the transport & sit down.
All seems good & going well.
Just a normal journey.
And there you are, minding your business, perhaps you’ve got your headphones on, or you’re looking at your phone, or reading a book when, someone looks at you, points and then says …
… “Oi, fatty, mind you don’t break the seat!”
… “You’re right ugly!”
… “Get your act together!”
… “OMG you must be sooo lazy to look that way!”
… “When are you gonna lose all that blubber?”
… “I can’t imagine you’d ever get a boyfriend / girlfriend / husband / wife looking like THAT!”
… “I’d pap you for my page but I ain’t got no wide-angle lens big enough on me phone!”
… “Bet they charged you double, taking up two seats like you are!”
How would you feel?
How would you react?
What would go through your mind?
What would you say, to them … & then to yourself?
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QUESTION: If it’s not appropriate for anyone else to say things like those about you, when did you start to believe it was ok to say just the same yourself?
Why, oh why do you believe saying those kinds of things are ever going to do any good, (unless you’re intending to make yourself feel even worse)?
The Very Next Time that you catch yourself saying ANYTHING similar to yourself about yourself do yourself a favour and turn it around.
Yup, that’s right.
Ask yourself, “What’s the 180 degree opposite comment that’d I love to believe instead.
And this doesn’t have to be a rose-tinted-spectacles comment, all I’m asking for is a baby step or two in the right direction.
… “Oi, fatty, mind you don’t break the seat!” Nope “Hey man, you should have seen me in the past, now that was a seat-breaking MF back then!”
… “You’re right ugly!” Ditch that and say “I’m looking better than I did a few days ago.”
… “OMG you must be sooo lazy to look that way!” could, if you let it, become, “I’m doing some exercise every day, I got a plan for the rest of my life.”
You get the idea, but don’t use my words, they’ve got to come from within YOU.
The key point is this; there’s not much we can do about what others say about us, but there’s a hell of a lot we can do about what We Say About Ourselves.
Try it for a while & let me know how you get on.
Might just change your life.